There is a certain kind of danger reading Brain over Binge by Kathryn Hansen, you may either believe you’re not capable just like every diet makes you feel(and that could worsen your binge) or extinguish the problem just like Kathryn did. Why does it work for some people, why did it work for her? I believe even Kathryn was blind to some essential failures by acclaiming that you only need to stop binging to, well, stop binging…
Therapy won’t stop you from binge eating, but hey…
She claims that if you just observe your impulses as a third person and don’t attach any feeling to it, they will eventually go away. In psychology that is called mindfulness and it was proven to work. But hey, guess what? Is not that simple, there is more to Kathryn’s background. She also claims that therapy doesn’t work to stop the binge, and I could only agree, no therapist will sit by your side and wait for the impulse to be there and stop the damn thing. But that’s not how therapy works and you know it. She got it wrong, 2 years of therapy can help you a lot as even herself said it did, by the time she stopped binge eating her only real problem was binge eating and not some other dysfunctional relationship with family or friends. She even had a loving husband who would lay at her side in the carpet when she binged and slept on it because she didn’t felt worthy enough to be in the bed with him. She promises not to return therapy ever again, for it has not stopped her binging, but what if it has built a background of good mental health that made recovery possible? Chance favors only the prepared minds.
.. It’s not that easy, you will have to work on the love yourself shit
She is known for working out 7 hours after her binges, she was slim since childhood and kept that body shape. In the middle of the book, you will face her worries about how she doesn’t know what could have happened if she didn’t stop: she says she wouldn’t be able to keep the exercise for any longer and would eventually gain weight. Besides the fact that she makes you feel shit because you know you’re already with that extra weight, the fact that she has a body shape that she feels comfortable singles her case: most binge eaters are not. Body image is an important factor in binge recovery and asking someone who doesn’t feel good about it to just stop binging is like asking someone to just stop suffering, it gets all messed up. You can only recover from one thing if there is only one thing to overcome, so if you have problems with your body they can’t be ignored and trying to observe your urges as a third person won’t help you with that.
Summing up, should I..?
If your only problem is binge eating this mindfulness approach seems interesting but it can also make you feel incapable if it doesn’t work, which is just as any diet makes you feel and we already know that just makes it worse. For the irony of destiny, the book about Intuitive Eating was on the same section as Brain over Binge and Amazon suggested me to buy it and so I did. I also happen to read a lot of books at once and I glad I did read those two together, I knew there was something wrong with Brain over Binge but I didn’t know where to look for another option and there it was. This New Year I got concentrated in my cues for being full or satisfied, not worrying about being guilty, nor worrying about eating too much or too little. I proved what I wanted and ate what I needed. I’m glad to begin 2019 with this acceptance. Hope to be of help. =)